Man’s Search for Meaning
In Man's Search for Meaning, psychologist Victor Frankl describes his experience in Ausschwitz. In the concentration camp, he discovered that the the desire to find meaning and purpose is essential to the human experience. Frankl believes that humans are capable of overcoming almost anything if they find meaning in their suffering. This is the one book that I have recommended most in my life.
I First heard about Viktor Frankl when I was listening to an Interview with Tony Robbins and Tim Ferris. Tony Robbins was asked about the 2 Books that had the most impact on his life.
One of them was Man’s search for Meaning. At the Time I was studying successful people.
And Tony Robbins definitely qualifies. For those of you who don’t know him; Tony Robbins is an American success coach, entrepreneur, philanthropist and best selling author who has a net worth of over 500 million dollars.
I believe that when we emulate the habits of high achievers we will eventually get similar results. And in my investigation of the successful one habit popped up over and over: They read a lot!
You might say, no shit sherlock, everybody knows that?!
Well, I did not.
So I started a little self-experiment: How would my life change if I would start to read a 1000books recommended by people who are kicking ass globally.
So I made it my mission to find out what these books were and read as much of them as possible. Thus the 1000 Book challenge was born. In my book club, you find my latest favorite books that helped me to upgrade my life. Click here to check it out.
Viktor Frankl’s Man`s Search for Meaning is to this day the psychology book that I have recommended most often.
I don’t say this about many books, but this one has truly changed my life.
Being a lifelong student of human behavior I was particularly interested in Viktor Frankl’s Man`s Search for Meaning because I was looking for an answer to the question :
What is the difference between people who overcome hardship, suffering, problems and those who are not?
Viktor Frankl’s Man`s Search for Meaning gives you the answer to this question. So let’s dig into this! But first, let’s see who is the author of Man`s Search for Meaning.
…Who is Viktor Frankl
Who is Viktor Frankl? (1)
Viktor Frankl lived from 1905 to 1997, and he was a psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor.
He is the founder of Logo-therapy and wrote multiple best sellers. His mother, father, and sister all perished in the gas chambers of Nazi concentration camps. His book Man `s search for meaning“ is one of the most important and famous pieces of literacy ever written.
Viktor Frankl received his MD and Ph.D. degree from the University of Vienna where he studied psychiatry and neurology, on the areas of suicide and depression.
After treating thousands of people Frankl became the head of the neurological department at the Rothschild Hospital.
In 1942 during the Nazi Regime Frankl and his parents and his entire family were arrested and sent to the Theresienstadt concentration camp.
His father died there within six months. Over the course of three years, Frankl and the rest of his family were moved to Auschwitz. His brother died there and his mother was murdered.
In the camps, Frankl studied how humans behave in the face of extreme hardships and he helped other inmates who faced severe depression by encouraging them to reflect on positive memories, scenes and thoughts of their loved ones or something that gave them a compelling vision of their future. Frankl thought that during extreme hardships people can use meaning and spirituality to survive even inhuman circumstances.
What is Viktor Frankl’s Mans Search for Meaning about?
The book starts with Frankl sitting inside a train to Auschwitz. A death train.
Passengers, all of Jewish origin, forcefully being deported to their imminent and unavoidable death. The deported are fully aware that they won’t come back from this trip. Just imagine the absurdity of it! Having a gun held to your head and being fully conscious that your next stop is going to be a place where you are either murdered in a gas chamber or worked to death as a slave.
How does a man cope with such odds? How does a man put sense into this amount of misery and horror?
How can one find meaning in difficult times?
Frankl was in a unique position, as a psychiatrist, he was a student of human behavior. And as gruesome as this situation was for him, he created a meaning for his suffering. His meaning was to observe the behavior of other concentration camp inmates.
He wanted to research which humans were going to fall into despair and which humans found ways to survive under such horrible conditions.
Which humans were committing suicide and which were not?
Ask yourself this: Why are you not committing suicide right now?
Frankl wanted to know what inmates were surviving the longest. And he wanted to write a book about it. That was his why. To share his finding with the entire world.
Frank’l argues that it is impossible to avoid suffering. But we can choose how to cope with it.
Frankl believed that even in the midst of the most horrific, atrocious, dehumanizing conditions life had meaning and that suffering can have a purpose.
He observed that those concentration camp inmates who had a meaning, a purpose were less likely to fall into despair and depression. Less likely to commit suicide.
An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behavior — Viktor Frankl
He believes that it is up us to put meaning into our suffering. He thinks that it is possible and necessary for us to put a sense into our misery.
And that it is necessary to form a new purpose out of it.
His Theory is called logotherapy; which comes from the Greek word „Logos“ which means, meaning.
Frankl believed that the sense of life is that we discover what is personally meaningful to us. So take a sec of my article and really dwell into what gives you meaning, why are you here, what brings you joy, what is important to you?
What did he observe in his time in Auschwitz?
- To his surprise, he found out that those who survived longest in concentration camps were not the physically strongest, but those who kept a sense of control over their environment.
- He found that the inmates who were surviving the longest all had a why. The why can be your family waiting in America, or your fiancé for example. For example, Victors Why was the love for his wife. The thought of being united again with his beloved helped him to endure the hardships in the camp, even if they were unrealistic and unfounded. Because after all his chances of surviving were slim to none. He also had the dream of writing his book. He visualized himself with his published book in New York. Giving lectures to hundreds of students. He had a dream. He linked a why to his pain and suffering. And it made the hardships bearable for him.
3. He noticed that prisoners who lost their why quickly lost their life as a result.
He also noticed that prisoners who had a why were able to endure atrocities and hardships that most of us cannot even imagine. Inmates had to work for 20 hours a day, mining and laying railroads and doing heavy labor. Most only had one small piece of bread to eat the entire day. The moment you looked weak, they were killing you because they did not saw any use for you anymore. If people with a why can thrive under these conditions, imagine how you could blossom when you have nothing holding you back, but yourself. And no matter what your hardships have been, just the fact that you can read this article right now means that you belong to the most privileged 5% people on this planet.
4. You can get used to anything
This was one of the most inspirational takeaways for me. Our Body is way, way tougher than we think.
Frankl reports about the absurd conditions in the camps. How he and other inmates were stripped naked shaved completely. Had all their passports and belongings burned. For Frankl his lifes work ( the papers of his logotherapy books) were burned as well.
Jews ahd heir names were taken from them in the camps. They were given numbers and the numbers were tattooed on their skin. Treated like animals. If you looked weak, fragile whatsoever you were sent straight to the gas chamber where they would murder you.
The medical men among us learned first of all: “Textbooks tell lies!” Somewhere it is said that man cannot exist without sleep for more than a stated number of hours. Quite wrong! I had been convinced that there were certain things I just could not do: I could not sleep without this or I could not live with that or the other. The first night in Auschwitz we slept in beds which were constructed in tiers. On each tier (measuring about six-and-a-half to eight feet) slept nine men, directly on the boards. Two blankets were shared by every nine men“
4 Important Lessons I learned from Viktor Frankls Man`s Search for Meaning
1) Existential Vacuum
Viktor Frankl’s answers one of the questions that I had for a long time in his book Man`s Search for Meaning: How come that with rising resources people seem to live more and more in psychological detrimental states?
The existential vacuum is a widespread phenomenon of the twentieth century. This is understandable; it may be due to a twofold loss which man has had to undergo since he became a truly human being. At the beginning of human history, man lost some of the basic animal instincts in which an animal’s behavior is embedded and by which it is secured. Such security, like paradise, is closed to man forever; man has to make choices. In addition to this, however, man has suffered another loss in his more recent development inasmuch as the traditions which buttressed his behavior are now rapidly diminishing. No instinct tells him what he has to do, and no tradition tells him what he ought to do; sometimes he does not even know what he wishes to do. Instead, he either wishes to do what other people do (conformism) or he does what other people tell him to do (totalitarianism).”
Mans Search for Meaning.
Frankl believes that due to modern civilization we have been neglecting some of our most basic, primal needs and live in insecurity and purposelessness in consequence. Many years after Viktor Frankls death this still seems to be the case.
One of the main causes of depression and psychological pain, in my opinion, is the disconnection of humans from their true needs. We seem to be living in a world that is unfit to satisfy our true desires.
In history, it was never so normal for humans to live a life in isolated from our tribe, from nature, from meaningful work.
The consequence is that we have millions and millions of people suffering from loneliness, anxiety, and depression. It reminds me of what happens to wild animals after you put them in little cages; they die.
A tiger who can not hunt anymore, reproduce and wander through the jungle and eat the food he is supposed to eat will eventually pine away.
I call this the Panda Problem. Taking pandas and other animals out of their natural habit, and away from their other specimen equals the burglary of their very purpose and meaning. This is one of the reasons why they do horrible in captivity and why they don’t reproduce in zoos good.
It’s a classical depression. In order to hack this social phenomenon, we must reconnect to nature, to our tribe and radically redesign the way we live.
Working 9-5 in small office boxes doing a job that we hate, detached from our natural environment will result in a cultural depression.
This book has encouraged me more and more to live as a digital nomad. Connecting modern technology with my nomadic nature and travel the world and find and search for the lifestyle that I feel most happy.
“considers man as beeing whose main concern of fulfilling a meaning and in actualizin values, rather than in the mere gratification and satisfaction of drives and instincts.” Viktor Frankl. Mans search for mearning
Like everybody, I asked myself often: What is the purpose of life?
I was particularly interested in this question because for myself for a long time when I was not happy. Nothing had meaning. Meaningless is a sure ingredient of depression and psychological suffering in my opinion.
If nothing makes sense, why even try right?
So what drives humans?
One of my favorite psychologist and perverts Siggi Freud believed that humans are driven by the pursuit of pleasure. Another Psychologist during that era, Alfred Adler believed that we are being driven by our hunger for power.
Frankl thought a litterbit different about this.
According to Frankl, the primal motivational factor in humans is the pursuit of meaning.
Only when people fail to pursue meaning they fall for the darker drivers of behavior like pleasure and power.
Logotherapy is based on different assumptions about the psychology of a human being. (2)
- Life has meaning under all circumstances, even the most miserable ones.
- Our main motivation for living is our will to find meaning in life.
- We have the freedom to find meaning in what we do, what we experience, or at least in the stance, we take when we face with a situation of unchangeable suffering.
According to Viktor Frankl, there are three different ways to experience meaning.
- Creating a work or doing a deed.
- Experiencing something or encountering someone
- By the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering
Viktor Frankl in his psychotherapeutic counseling often asked his patients “What stops you from committing suicide?
Dissecting the meaning of the patient.
I personally love this approach. Because often people think they have nothing to live for.
We all have things to accomplish, books to write, journeys to undertake and families to love or to build. Sometimes it seems that our meaning and purpose in life is just not present in our perception of our reality anymore.
One of the main tasks of my blog is to change the perception of a reader, showing them a different perspective, in order to allow them to see things they should have seen a long time ago.
Auschwitz Case Study
“Once, an elderly general practitioner consulted me because of his severe depression. He could not overcome the loss of his wife who had died two years before and whom he had loved above all else. Now how could I help him? What should I tell him? I refrained from telling him anything, but instead confronted him with a question, “What would have happened, Doctor, if you had died first, and your wife would have had to survive without you?:” “Oh,” he said, “for her, this would have been terrible; how she would have suffered!” Whereupon I replied, “You see, Doctor, such a suffering has been spared her, and it is you who have spared her this suffering; but now, you have to pay for it by surviving and mourning her.” He said no word but shook my hand and calmly left the office.:178–179 (2)
Showing people in extreme horrific situations that there are still things to look forward to, that there are still things they can control is one of the most powerful lessons I ever learned from a psychological book.
3) Stimulus-Response Gap
Frankl argues in Mans search for Meaning that there is a gap between trigger and response. Meaning that you are in charge of your behavior and with it, we decide how we react, even in face of most dire circumstances.
This is interesting to me, because for a long time I thought our behavior is a direct product of our environment, and that we can do little about it.
Frankl believes in free will and in our ability to implant meaning in even the most horrific, unbearable situations.
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Viktor Frankl
Frankl empowers personal decision and repairs peoples lost self-efficacy with this belief.
Even with most undesirable addictive behaviors there still is a necessity for the person to act. Meaning we are not powerless.
And although society may let it appear that people just get fat magically, I never saw a person eat a big mac by accident. So we still have to take some responsibility for our behaviors.
4) Gaping Abyss
This is one of the most interesting concepts of Viktor Frankl is the gaping abyss in my opinion.
Viktor Frankl believes that depression occurs at the 3 levels.
One of the drivers of depressions seems to be the discrepancy gap of undertaking tasks beyond our abilities.
If there is to much tension between what a person actually is, in relation to what he in his opinion should be can result in depression.
If we set goals for ourselves that are unreachable we live in a constant state of failure, and this will result in a lowered believe in our own abilities in my opinion.
This contradicts the public opinion that one should shoot constantly for the stars. I think we must segment our goals and dreams and moonshot projects into achievable pieces.
Instead of having a dream where the reward is all the way on the other side of the rainbow we must celebrate each and every little step on our way to our vision.
Because of that, I ask myself segmenting questions.
After visualizing a dream or a goal I ask myself ” “hat 3 things can I do today in order to make this dream come true TODAY, THIS WEEK, THIS MONTH, THIS YEAR.
And I am happy over the tiniest steps forwards towards my dream, because growing is a sure antidote to despair and unhappiness.
We need to have atleast the feeling of being control, or the feeling that are moving towards something.
Otherwise we are lost.
5) Despair is suffering without meaning.
In an interview, Frankl was asked what he witnessed in the concentration camps. And one of the questions was if he spotted any patterns in inmates that were prone to not survive.
Frankl argues that people who have no meaning in their suffering are prone to fall into despair and even suicide.
In the concentration camps, the inmates faced unspeakable circumstances. And many inmates became depressed and killed themselves.
In war, this is a common, logical phenomenon. Suicide is a self-protective mechanism where one has lost all faith that things will get better in the future. In Germany when the Russians were invading Germany, after Nazi Germany committed thousands of war crimes against Russia, entire villages committed suicide.
Frankl was in a unique situation as a therapist in a concentration camp, and his observations are of incredible value and give extreme deep insight into human psychology.
One thing he witnessed was that inmates who survived had the ability to see meaning in their suffering. Frankl even took his predicament and turned it into a personal triumph, a resource even.
In Auschwitz, Frankl counseled countless inmates who fell into despair in order to save their lives. Because if you are observable weak in a concentration camp you are of no use to the Nazis anymore, and you get gassed.
So in order to survive, they needed to shave daily, and pretend that they are strong and capable of doing hard work.
If one person was limping this was enough of a reason sometimes to gas them.
Frankl observed many people who gave up. The concentration inmates used to trade with cigarettes. If a person would start to smoke all their cigarettes themselves and not use them as a currency anymore for food or something else you could predict that that person has given up already.
When you face a dire situation, a problem, or a hardship ask yourself; What is great about this problem? What can I learn from this situation? How can I become stronger through this hardship? Will I be able one day to help somebody else who is going through this right now with my experience?
I took this principle into the extreme. Do you know the statement that everybody who studies psychology has some problems himself?
Well, for me this was quite true. And being the crazy fucker that I am, I failed more often than others and I experienced a whole lot of not awesome.
Struggling with depression was for a long time a predicament. I mean being in pain and unhappy does not quite seem like a blessing from the sky. But when you study psychology you basically are living with a case studies 24/7. Yourself. So for me learning about behavioural psychology and clinical psychology became an intrinsic endeavor.
I realized that being unhappy as an aspiring psychologist is not a detriment but a resource. I thought that in order to cure others, I first needed to learn how to cure myself. Suddenly my mental predicament was not solely about me anymore. It became also about helping others. I thought that it was a selfish thing for me to stay depressed, because of all the people I was missing out on that I could help.
I created a why. A why that was bigger than myself. My suffering became meaningful to me. Even more. When I saw people in my inner circle in pain, I spotted patterns quicker and quicker and I was able to help more and more. This resulted in me always being in learning mode and also always giving me a reason to frame suffering in my family as a learning and an opportunity to get better at my craft. Becoming a pain in the ass full-time extreme psychologist.
I believe that by transforming myself from a total fuck up into an epic version of myself, I will be able to duplicate this transformation in others. By showing them a blueprint that change is possible. If I can do it, so can you.
Viktor Frank’l believes that suffering is inevitable. And it is, but it is your decision whether you want to perish due to your trauma or if you want to put meaning into it and thrive because of it.
If you are in pain anyway, one might as well use it. Once you defined your why you are prepared to face any how.
So go all out and kick ass.
Thanks for reading.
Call to action
So what is yours why? What is your meaning in your life?? Do you see your suffering as a curse or as a chance to grow?
- Write down 10 reasons why you are not killing yourself. What is important to you? Who do you love? What is fun for you? What are things you want to see and achieve?
- Grab an empty cookie Jar
- Write down 3 Hardships of your past on a small piece of paper.
- Now write on the back of the paper what you did to overcome it.
- Write down three problems that taught you something or turned out later to be a skill or a resource
- If you would die today, what tasks, projects, dreams would die with you?
- Ask yourself every evening: What did I give today?
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